This is a condition most often associated with women. Why do some women have difficulty in achieving orgasm?
There are a number of reasons why a woman may not be able to achieve orgasm, some physical others psychological.
Possible physical issues:
medication treating another illness
injury or accident which affects genital receptiveness
conditions which interrupt nerve supply to the genitals
Possible psychological issues:
stress or anxiety
cultural or religious guilt associated with sex
This provides you with overview of some of the issues surrounding orgasmic difficulty. If you’re interested in a more detailed discussion we suggest Becoming Orgasmic. Successful for 95% of women in clinical trials, this video will provide many of the answers you’re looking for.
What can I do to better my chances?
Being comfortable with your body is the first step to becoming orgasmic. Explore your beautiful body by yourself and be secure in all your minor flaws. We all have them, why should you be any different?
A wonderful first step is to take an evening to yourself and explore your body. Draw yourself a nice warm bath and then let any tension fade away. Next head into your bedroom and lock the door. Take a personal mirror and explore your genitals. Unlike men, women’s genitals are hidden from their eyes. So take a moment to see what your partner sees. Explore your beauty. Once you’re more comfortable an orgasm will be much easier to achieve.
If you’ve never masturbated before, then this is a good time to start. Allow yourself to totally relax and get wrapped up in the moment. Concentrate on the sensations that feel extremely pleasurable. Remember the techniques you used and teach them to your partner.
If you want to explore a greater variety of sensations that can help you achieve orgasm, you can try a toy such as the Rabbit Pearl. The Rabbit Pearl is a multi-faceted sex toy that offers a wide range of sensations. It has a high quality dildo that you can use to find which angle and type of thrusting your prefer as well as two types of vibrations (one clitoral and one internal) for you to explore.
You can also sample products such as I.D. Pleasure, which is a high-market lubricant containing L-Arginine. L-Arginine is a non-essential amino acid which, through clinical testing, has been shown to enhance sexual arousal in both men and women. When ID Pleasure is applied to the clitoris, vaginal walls or penis for lubrication the L-Arginine will increase the blood flow to the region, heightening sensitivity. Heightened sensitivity, in turn, naturally results in a greater responsiveness to sexual stimulation.
Make sure that you are in the mood
You should feel relaxed and comfortable so that you can fully appreciate sexual intimacy with yourself or your partner. In ideal circumstances you should be relaxed and stress free. For many women, the late evening is the worst time to engage in sexual activity. If you’re tired and wound up from a hectic day, wait for a relaxed Sunday afternoon when the kids are out of the house.
Additionally, if you’re angry at your partner, it may not be the best time to engage in sexual intimacy.
Communicate with your partner
Tell him/her what you find sexually stimulating. Many women can not achieve orgasm from intercourse. This is not a sexual dysfunction, it just means that your partner has to explore what you find most pleasurable. If you’re not sure, then you should do some exploring together. Make sure you give feedback and don’t be afraid to something “isn’t that great.”. If the stimulation provided by your partner isn’t strong enough, you may want to explore the use of a vibrator. Honest communication will help you achieve orgasm and make your partner a better lover.
Oral sex or manual stimulation of the clitoris may be too infrequent for some women to achieve orgasm so an alternative method of stimulation is advised. Vibrators provide the intense stimulation most women need to achieve orgasm. If you’ve never tried a vibrator before, then why not now? Using a vibrator is a wonderful experience; one you should try. Explore the entire genital region and find your most erogenous areas. Concentrate on what turns you on the most.
Some women go through a stage of arousal where they are not becoming further excited. Many feel that this is where their arousal will end and that they will not be able to achieve an orgasm. Once a woman believes that she is not going to be able to have an orgasm, that is often exactly what happens.
It is okay for you to touch yourself during sexual intimacy with a partner. Self stimulation is encouraged, and often accentuates the feeling of intercourse.